Episode 105: How to Take Action Before the Perfect Moment with Wendy Paige Sterling

In this episode of The Pursuit of Badasserie, we’re joined by special guest Wendy Paige Sterling, a bold leadership disruptor who empowers high-achieving women to break industry norms by tapping into their intuitive “Yes I Can” voice. Wendy shares her personal journey of leaving a successful corporate career to follow her passion as an empowerment coach, helping others take action even when they don’t feel ready.

We dive into the power of intuition, why waiting for the perfect moment can sabotage your progress, and how taking small steps toward your goals can make all the difference. Wendy also shares practical strategies for overcoming fear, trusting yourself, and leading with authenticity to create a movement and drive impact.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

• How to trust your intuition and take bold action, even when you feel unprepared
• Wendy’s transition from corporate life to leadership disruptor and coach
• Why perfectionism can hold you back and how to move past it
• Simple steps to start making progress toward your goals today
• The importance of accountability, community, and owning your decisions
• Embracing growth through challenges and setbacks

About Wendy Paige Sterling: Wendy Paige Sterling is a bold leadership disruptor empowering high-achieving women to break industry norms by tapping into their intuitive “Yes I Can” voice to create movements and drive impact. Her mission is to align business with passion, helping leaders build not only successful but deeply fulfilling careers and lives. Wendy is a sought-after speaker and two-time international best-selling author, with expertise featured on NBC, Good Day LA, and Daily Blast Live.

As the host of the influential podcast The Power In The Pause and creator of the global “I Can” movement, Wendy guides ambitious disruptors to lead with authenticity, push past limits, and embrace challenges that ignite their true potential. She’s known for her no-nonsense approach, combining spiritual awakening and heart-centered leadership to turn obstacles into opportunities for growth.

Connect with Wendy:

• Website: wendypaigesterling.com
• Instagram: @wendypaigesterling

Listener Challenge: At the end of the episode, we challenge you to take one small action that you’ve been putting off and trust your gut. Let us know how it goes, and don’t forget to share your wins!

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Lynn Howard

Hey, I’m Lynn

Amanda Furgiuele

and I’m Amanda. Welcome to The Pursuit of Badasserie: The Podcast. We’re back again with another incredible guest Lynn tell us all about her

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Yeah I’m so excited about Wendy Pichterling Who is joining us today?

She is a bold leadership Disruptor empowering hi to two women to break industry norms by tapping into their intuitive yes I can voice to create movements and Drive impact with a mission to align business with passion Wendy helps leaders build not only successful But deeply fulfilling lives and careers a sought-after speaker and a two-time international best-selling author Wendy’s expertise has been featured on mbc good day la and daily blast live She coaches ambitious instructors to lead with authenticity push past limits and embrace challenges that ignite their true potential No for her not no nonsense approach.

We know a little bit about that Wendy guides clients or major life transitions turning obstacles into growth opportunities for coaching and combined spiritual awakening and heart centered leadership aligning business with core values for diverse success.

As host of the influential podcast the power in the pause and creator of the global I can movement Wendy’s impact inspires a global audience harness their intuition and become pioneers in their own industry.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Welcome Wendy. Thanks, ladies. I’m so excited to be here and to have another conversation with you guys.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

I know it feels like forever.

Wendy Paige Sterling

It does and Lynn was on my podcast.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

So you guys, know, I love I love chatting with you always does, right?

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Absolutely.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

Tell us a little bit. I mean, I’m dying to know a little bit. How did you get started in this world?

we’ve talked about it before, but let’s talk for our audience. How did you get started on where you are right now?

Wendy Paige Sterling

That is a great question and I will try to clip. I’ve noted for all of you guys as we could like it’s been 20 minutes on my story, but essentially my journey into entrepreneurship really began about eight years ago when the universe handed me quite a wake up call and that came in the form of realizing that my 16 year marriage was coming to an end and the facade of my marital life was really that complete facade.

I had been living so much of my life and my existence really based on who I saw through other people’s eyes and I was living through what I thought I should do, who I should be, and I was constantly putting other people ahead of myself and I was living a people-pleasing existence.

So what does that mean? It meant that I wasn’t listening to my own voice and even years before this night happened where I

I realized that my marriage was over, and I came to come to figure out through my intuition that my now ex-husband was having an affair.

I realized that my voice was talking to me, but I wasn’t listening. And so what my separation and then ultimately what my decision to file for divorce really made me take a really hard look at myself in the mirror, which is so freaking hard.

And it is something that we don’t really love doing, and yet at the same time it’s, you know, everything we avoid is exactly what we should be diving headfirst into, right?

So my divorce really forced me to take a really hard look at myself and realize how much I had completely disconnected from who I was, and I have been doing it for decades.

So while it was incredibly painful and unexpected, it also woke me up to the power of my own intuition, my own

inner whisper, and ultimately what trusting myself really felt like. And so that’s when I first jumped into the world of life coaching and helping women through their own divorces, like really helping them tap into seeing their divorce as happening for them, not to them, and really reconnecting with their inner strength to design a life that they loved.

And then I had a second wake-up call about two and a half years ago that literally changed everything. In January of 2022, I lost my mom to ovarian cancer and her passing was another pivotal moment in my life that once again pivoted my entrepreneurial career and the clients that I wanted to serve.

And her passing really gave me a deeper sense of clarity on my purpose and that it was so much bigger than just supporting women going through divorce.

force and losing her really taught me that life is now life is so incredibly short and to stay stuck in what you’re good at or what you you know everyone has come to know you as to stay stuck in certain roles and expectations that don’t align with who you are anymore.

I think so many of us are so afraid to really step into our own evolution and so when I lost my mom it really gave me the courage to admit to myself that it was time to level up my work it was time to really reveal what my truest gifts were and that is exactly what Lynn introduced me as is really helping high achieving women who do feel you know even though they are you know they may be killing it at work and they think that they’re killing it at home what’s really happening is that they really do feel

lost and disconnected, you know, they’re they’re doing what is might be, you know, what easy or just is just a default for them, but ultimately they’re disconnecting from what really lights them up.

And they’ve lost what that trust really feels like. And so really shifting out of divorce coaching and really moving into more intuitive entrepreneurship entrepreneurship.

that’s a hard one to say is really, you know, it’s really, you know, teaching women how to really tap into their intuition to allow them to really create and be who it is that lights them up instead of, you know, staying in the status quo, because it’s just comfortable and it’s what you know.

But at the end of the day, it’s not who you’re here. And it’s not who you’re here to be.

And it’s not in alignment with your true purpose. So that’s that’s how I got here.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Yeah, I Hey, I mean, there’s so many, so many different things in there that are that I want to dive deeper into.

But I love, first of all, we talked a lot about this is, you know, you took something that was happening in your life to you, for you, both, and said, it did a hard look and said, Who am I?

Where do I need to go? And what do I need to heal? Right? So where do I need to grow and evolve?

And you also did that when your mom passed. And I know that there’s some other layers to the story as well.

And just really leaning into that. And it’s fascinating because, you know, you said, life happens, we numb, we get lost, we, we put on the masks, we end up forgetting who we are unless we’re intentionally digging back in unless we’re resetting ourselves intentionally.

like it’s a conscious effort even when you work on it so much, you still have to make it a conscious effort to realign, to reconnect, to reattach to who you are.

So that way you’re enabling your own growth, you’re in the driver’s seat of your own growth. And I think it’s beautiful what you do with women, especially because you do work with a certain niche that are high achieving because those of us, I mean, I think we’re all in that same bucket.

Those of us, you know, like we have things to do and like we’re doing it, like we can get so lost in that bulldozing and that power as well and lose touch of that.

And I know Amanda talks a lot about, you know, she often has to catch herself because she could be easily be a bulldozer and I use different terminology, but I definitely like I’m go, go, go.

And it’s so beautiful to do. So I guess my question is, is You know, sometimes it’s hard for high-achieving women, especially.

mean, men too, we’re not equaling them, but to say, you know what, I need help. So I guess walk us through what that conversation may look like or how that woman comes to say, you know what, it’s time for me to reach out and have help because I think some of us have a hard time with that part.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Oh, of course, I mean, how can we not, right? You know, here’s a thing, right? Like this, if I’m speaking to a former version of myself and maybe even who you guys are, you know, those of you who are listening is, you know, this is typically what I hear my clients say is top of mind for them, right?

It’s typically around, like, who’s dream am I actually living? Who’s approval? Am I seeking, right? And many times that puts us on this path that just doesn’t light us up.

It feels really hard and it feels really heavy. And I find that it’s also something where, you know, we feel like we’ve almost like pigeon hold ourselves into this path.

Maybe it’s for financial reasons. Maybe it’s because, you know, you’ve worked your way up the corporate ladder and thinking about leaving that corporate ladder is daunting because, oh my God, you have this impression that I have to start over.

But what I’ve come to learn the hard way and what my clients understand as well is that just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean that it’s something that you’re passionate about.

And yet under all the success, under all the badges, under all the certifications, under all the accolades, you still feel inadequate.

You still feel not enough. And so what does that do? It perpetuates. to a hamster wheel, right? It’s when you keep getting into perfectionism.

It’s when you keep over working. It’s when you’re sacrificing for God knows who, but at the end of the day, you’re sacrificing yourself in the process, right?

And so, so many times, it’s so hard for us to make the jump because we don’t know what’s on the other side.

And I think that, you know, we allow mistakes from our past to define what could be possible moving forward.

And so, you know, there’s a big thing that I talk about and actually, you know, I don’t know that I’ve ever really brought this into this type of a conversation, you know, a question that I always ask my clients is like, when are you going to forgive yourself?

When are you actually going to say to yourself, like, it’s okay that I’ve made these decisions up until now, you get to stand in the power of knowing that you can make

get changed at any given time. But the forgiveness piece I find, the self forgiveness piece I find is actually really hard for us high achieving women, because it’s almost like we have to admit to ourselves that we made a mistake.

And it’s not that we made a mistake, it’s that we did what worked for who it was that we were then, but it doesn’t mean that it works anymore.

And so the forgiveness piece that I talk about with this is all around how it is that you’re judging yourself.

the way that I teach self forgiveness, and how I bring it into this type of a conversation is really around like, when are you going to forgive yourself for judging yourself as sticking it out, doing what was expected of you, showing up the way that you did, maybe putting work before your kids, because you didn’t think you had a choice at the time, right?

And so I really would encourage everybody to like do a little bit of self reflection around that. Like, what is it that you get to forgive yourself for in this moment in time?

And how is it that you want to do things differently? How is it that you want to show up differently?

What is it that you want to do? What is it that is going to light you up at the end of the day?

What is it that you really want? Because at the end of the day, if you’re anything like me, you want control.

You want control over the outcome. You want control over everyone, everything in your life. But I’m here to tell you, and so sorry to burst your little bubble, but, like, control is an illusion.

You have control over yourself. You do not have control over anything else. You have control over your reactions. You have control over your decisions.

You have control over your thoughts. You have control over your feelings. And yet you’re constantly blaming the world. And so the self-forgiveness piece I find is super important as it relates to really releasing control.

Because if you don’t forgive yourself for whatever judgments you had, you’re not going to be able to release control.

You’re going to stay in this in this existence of living a facade, which I mean, I’m guilty of. I lived a facade for two decades, like, you know, until I woke up and I decided to make a change.

And so, you know, I would really invite everyone to not see it as like, you’re in an identity crisis.

It’s really just your identity is there. It’s calling to you. And it’s just a matter of you giving it room to breathe and to come to life.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

I love that. Oh, I know, man, as I’m meeting, the forgiveness part is huge. And you didn’t use this word, but I definitely want to plug this word in there about the choices and looking.

And you, it’s taking responsibility to free your action, your part in it, because people can you kind of reference like blaming on others or the world.

And it’s not. I love those two questions that you ask, which anybody could ask themselves is like, you know, who’s dream am I living and why am I out with that like to really get down and dirty and like ask yourself, um, where am I at and who’s dream is it mine or is it somebody else’s and just kind of that reality check.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

love that. So we’ve definitely spoken about that. No, we’ve spoken about that before about this idea that often as you hit this level of achievement, you’re checking off boxes because everybody told you you’re supposed to check off these boxes and then when it comes down to all the boxes are checked and you’re still not fulfilled and you’re still not happy and you’re still not getting what you want out of whatever situation you’re in and then you do have to make those hard reflections on your own life and your choices and say, yeah, I’m I checked off these boxes but they were never that important to me in the first place.

They were important to this person or to the society or to my sister or whatever and that’s a really, really hard thing to realize as you achieve.

He’d so much and everyone’s looking. Oh, come on, Chief, you’re so successful, you all this. And then to be unfulfilled in that success is really hard, I think, particularly for people in a high achievement space, because you worked so hard and it kind of comes down to nothing.

You worked hard for nothing because it doesn’t mean anything to you. So it’s nothing. And then that will, of course, the control issue.

all know I have control issues. So I just think that it is, I know it, it all trickles down into how you see the successes of your life and then how you project what’s going to come after that and how you’re going to turn around from that space of unfulfilled successes, like what happens next?

Where do you go from there? that’s a really hard thing to come to terms with and to do the deep dive on that yourself and then come out of it without the victim mentality, for sure.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

I do want to add before winding jumps in is also like at that level. Oh, you’re numbing yourself. So it’s not even like, it’s not even like you aren’t fulfilled in it.

It’s that you’re not even sometimes acknowledge, especially for high powered people, you’re not even acknowledging that you’re accomplishing that like it’s just like next, next, next, next, it’s like you’re not taking a breath and being present in it.

And I know that there’s kind of a variation in a scale of them, but that’s the other side of the scale that there’s lots of them.

I mean, I know you work with women kind of on both sides in the spectrum of even those who don’t like take the opportunity to to look and say, you know what, I did do this.

Holy crap. Instead, there are a lot of times I think they’re in survival mode.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Oh, 100%. Yeah. part of that is is feeling the weight of expectation. The expectations that everyone has on us.

That’s right, and what I come to find is that so many of us we suffocate ourselves by placing other people’s expectations plus our own on our chest, right?

So the expectations are self-imposed and they’re externally imposed, and so imagine, you know, how much breath you have left, very little, when this is like, it’s like an elephant sitting on your chest.

So it’s really hard when you’ve got all these expectations on top of you. How is it that you are supposed to do anything, no wonder you’re exhausted, no wonder you feel completely disconnected, no wonder you are wondering how the heck you got here, you know, and I think that this idea, you know, I am and I’m the same, like I’m a control, I’m a type A personality, I love being in control and it’s something I work at every single day, you guys, it is a muscle, I work every single

day, right? And I know that the idea of letting go feels terrifying. How can it not, right? Especially when you think that you have control, but it’s the same thing, right?

As I was saying before, it’s this whole illusion. And so I think it’s really important that we readjust our expectations of ourselves, that we stop letting other people’s expectations of us infiltrate our world.

Because, one of my favorite quotes, and I believe that it’s Rachel Hollis who said something to the effect of this, which is that like other people’s opinions are none of your business.

And yet, we actively make them our business, right? so one of the things I always tell my clients is that, like, who said that, like, you have to even listen to what people say, like, it never has anything to do with you.

It has everything to do with that, right? Like, when I was getting divorced, it was like, oh, crap. Versus contagious.

Oh, that must feel like I’m going to say anything and everything to make sure that this doesn’t infiltrate my world.

Or like when I tell people my mom passed away, like, it’s almost like, oh my god, this reality is like, oh my god, this could be me like sets in and then everything that comes at you is a projection of other people’s fears.

And so imagine like all of that stuff being on top of you, like, I get that it can be super hard and I get that it’s.

It’s, you know, it’s hard to really, you know, reframe and shift perspectives, but you’re the one who has control coming back to control.

Like, you’re the one who has the control over that. So I would invite you to go inward and be admitted to yourself.

Like, how’s that working for you? Right. And I love that you brought in the piece of responsibility. I always say, you know, you get to take 100% of your roles responsibility.

Like, you take 100% of the 50%. responsibility that you had in X, Y, or Z, right? I always say, yeah, my ex has been cheated on me.

And I’m also part of a marriage, right? So he has to live with that, that’s on his half. And I get to live with my half of the like I had to take 100% responsibility for my 50% of my marriage falling apart, right?

And so I think so many times we just want the other it’s so much easier to blame other people because that’s less control that, you know, it’s like, it’s less that you have on your plate to deal with, right?

And at the end of the day, like I always say, like the shortcut is through, like you got it, you got to swim in it in order to get through the other side.

Like if you’re going to circumvent and make excuses and go all the way over, oh my God, that you’re going to be in no man’s land forever.

So how’s that serving ya?

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

You know, instead of like, you’re in a situation all the time, not good. if it’s the same broken over it.

You know, and I know we’ve spoke about this, and even a minute, I’ve spoke about this a gajillion times is, I know you work with ladies who you don’t have to be at that, like, at that breaking point to get out.

Like, you don’t have to have something traumatic happen to you or something life changing. Like, the day is now that you can take control of your life, reclaim your intuition and absolutely start working, walking your own journey and working on your own journey.

And I think that that’s really important to note here because there’s often times where people will just put up with it, like, keep bulldozing until something big happens.

And, you know, I’ve shared my story many times, but, like, cancer was a huge wake-up call for me and to be able to, like, change things.

And then there are other points in my life also that were just, like, a bit more of a nudge to realign myself with that, with my

purpose and with who I am. And so you don’t have to wait, ladies, like you don’t or anybody listening to the podcast, even the men that are listening, like we put our lives on hold for the potential impossibilities or the excuses or the rationalization that, Oh, well, I can fix it or things will change or let me just get through this one thing or or whatever it is before you know it.

Five years later, you’re still singing that same story and like, okay, like you’ve kept yourself here. You’ve continued to paint the picture.

So WDF.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

I mean, I think that’s true because it’s so it’s so easy to put it off till when things calm down a little bit.

After Christmas, once the Christmas season is done, Oh, well, you know, like taxes are coming like once taxes are done, I can hunker down to that and oh, well, once the kids are out of high school, then I’ll do this and it’s snow.

balls and snowballs and snowballs until you look back and you’ve missed out on all those opportunities and then you’re kicking yourself and wondering why you aren’t where you want to be because you let all of that opportunity pass you by for a time that was going to be more convenient or circumstance that was going to be more convenient or when finances were more plentiful and all of those what-ifs and possibilities that you’re waiting for really don’t exist they don’t there’s no way to say for sure that next week will be less busy or that when the kids are done with high school that you will feel more comfortable with this or when you know when you reach this milestone financially that you’ll feel more prepared to do something none of those things are guaranteed and setting yourself even up for that false expectation can really throw a wrench in your plans and your progress and and your whole life and how you plan to live at your business too at all of it and I think that’s it’s so easy to do and I hear so many people weekly I’m sure all three of us have heard me

Many people say, oh, it’s just not the right time. Like when this falls in place, like when everything align with the stars align, then it’ll be meant to be.

Like, good luck with that. They’re not aligning for everybody. Not everybody in the stars are going to align miracles, like miraculously for every single person at some single point, just so you can do this one project.

Wendy Paige Sterling

You’ve got to make that happen. Well, you bring up something super important. I’m going to put the word out there, right?

is like, we are our own worst accountability partners. And so the big reason why clients come to work with me, and I’m sure with you guys too, is the accountability piece is so crucial because we can’t hold that for ourselves.

And it’s hard for us to see what it is that we are too blind to see, right? It’s like that story, and this has come up so many times.

It’s such a good story, but it’s like that story where, you know, there’s a man who’s like drifting out in the middle of the ocean, and he prays to God to like send him help.

And here comes a ship, and the ship is here, and the guy’s like, I’m waiting for God to send me

you know okay God sends like a plane and the plane and he’s like waves the plane by and it’s like you know oh I’m waiting for God to send me help and then the guy dies he goes up to heaven and is like God where were you he’s like I said you want a ship I sent you a plane like the solutions are literally right in front of you right like we’re here or we’re you know and it does take an awakening and a level of accountability that you get to admit that you need I mean this is very much what our high achievers know about themselves right it’s like I know you need the help but imagine what having help how we can help you how we can accelerate you like you can sit here and stay here like you saying Amanda it’s like oh when the kids graduate oh when this oh when that right versus like imagine if in three months it’s done because someone’s done this before you and has the like

Good notes, like how much greater would that like sign me up like where do I pay like I’m all in on that right and it’s not about You know, I I believe in listening to your intuition.

I’ve had many conversations with people where I’m like, you know what? It’s a not now Right, it’s not a no.

It’s a not now and then it’s like in two weeks. I’m like, okay. I’m a yes, right? And I understand that process, but these processes of like in 10 years when my kids graduate It’ll that’ll be the better time, right?

You know, and and it’s why I’m so passionate about teaching people as we’re all born with it, how to tap into their intuition and to know what it feels like for them and to take baby steps to be able to trust it And to know that based on where you feel it in your body, that is your inner truth telling you it’s a yes.

It’s a now And you know, it takes courage. get it It’s hard to trust that and to know the difference.

And once you practice it and you know what it feels like for you, you’re unstoppable.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Yeah, there’s two things in there. First of all, I mean, pretty profound is that if you’re not tapping into who you are and your purpose, and in my humble opinion, there’s part of you that’s living a lie.

And so if you’re done living a lie, like it’s time for you to like kind of come out of that.

And it’s hard to admit. But you know, I often use the analogy because we’re all high achievers on this call and, you know, high performance and high impact and blah, blah, blah, all of that stuff, doers, et cetera.

And I can use the analogy of like, listen, I tell people what to do all day. I’m in control.

I’m doing all this like control within my own capacity. I’ve done the work. So not in some of the other capacities.

What were we’re talking about. But at the end of the day, I can go to the gym and work out on my own, which I do, but I hire coach because I’m tired of telling people I’m tired of like, having to figure everything out on my own.

And I can tell you like that’s, so I go to the gym, I get my butt kicked by somebody else.

I don’t have to think I can actually sink into who I am. And essentially that’s, I mean, that’s what we all do.

But that’s especially what you do is like, for those high performance who yes, you can do it all just because you can doesn’t mean you have to.

And that like sinking in to being able to like have somebody else hold that space and help you carry that and be there and understand you at that level.

It is priceless because you’re able to breathe in a different way, which makes you a hell of a lot more capable and successful and more high achieving in a directive way.

That is unstoppable because it’s more in alignment with who you you are in the path that you’re destined to be on or the path that you’re really choosing for yourself.

And so I always love that analogy because yeah, I tell people what to do all day long. I run my life all day long.

I just want to sit back and allow somebody else to direct me. And I know that that’s what we do for our clients, but I also know that that’s also what you do, especially when it comes to high achieving women.

just we operate differently. And this is no shade and we’re just aware of how we operate versus those who aren’t.

And it’s not one’s better than the other.

Wendy Paige Sterling

No, and to each of their own, right? agree with you wholeheartedly. mean, I it’s funny. I was having a conversation with someone earlier today.

And, you know, and I was saying to her, I was like, God, like the way that you’re able to hear what I’m saying.

And you like so much so succinct in wrapping together everything that’s coming out of my mouth right now. like you just like summed it up so beautifully and it’s like I knew what she said but she just heard it in a way that she was able to just like funnel like it’s like this funnel like she was able to just funnel it down for me and I was like oh my god like you just saved me an hour of like brainstorming and journaling and you know and and I agree with you I mean it’s I’m so good at this and helping my clients with this and it’s still a practice for me and I have a coach like I work with someone because I know that she holds me accountable I know that she hears things that I like the way she’s able to do it I’m just like my god how do you do this right and meanwhile I’m like I do this for my clients why can’t I do it for myself and it’s just because we just can’t and it’s okay and it doesn’t mean that I’m I’m in competent or it doesn’t mean that I’m not a good coach and by the way if you’re working with

someone who is not being coached. Like, I have a very strong opinion about this. every coach has a coach because we know that we are an evolution of ourselves and we are always steps ahead of our existing clients.

So if your coach doesn’t have a coach, like to me, that’s a red flag because we’re always working on ourselves, right?

And you’ve got to want to invest, it is an investment in yourself. Like, what better investment is there? There is it, in my opinion.

You know, I’ll double down on me all day any day.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

As we should.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

As we should. I definitely think there is absolutely no better investment than investing in yourself. There’s just, there’s no better payoff, there’s no better turnaround.

Like, it’s 100% I agree with you and absolutely all three of us have coaches. I’ve had coaches for years and all different things and not just in one modality in my life.

have multiple coaches who helped me through whatever is. Even things that I am, as you said, things that I am capable of doing, I was a trainer for 20 years and I still will hire someone to train me, not because I don’t know what to do because I need whatever is is whatever I’m stuck on, that’s something you need to train a coach for whatever that coaching looks like when I’m stuck on hitting eight figures, or if I’m stuck on, you know, learning to drive a car or I’m stuck or whatever it is, that’s the thing you need to coach for.

If you’re stuck, even if you do it yourself, if you’re stuck, that’s where you need a coach. If you want that growth, that’s where you need a coach.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Yeah, I agree with that, of course, with the trees, right? Sorry, Wendy, it’s the coach, even if you’re not stuck, they can see the forest in the trees, they can see where you’re holding yourself back and and be able to help you tap into things that you’re not necessarily like consciously aware of.

You might be subconsciously or call you out. Like, all three of us are color-outers. Like we have no problem saying to our clients, not just our clients, being like, babe, you need to check yourself.

And I think that that’s also what makes us special too and what I love, love, love, what we love about you is that, and again, like it tracks like, but that you are that person and not that you’re being rude, you’re just calling out how it is.

You have no filter. You’re unapologetic about your own journey, which I think is beautiful. And as women, tend to apologize for our existence, this, for that, kind of ingrained in us.

And to be able to lean into that unapolog, not in a rude way, but in unapologetic self. Oh, so that way you’re not making excuses.

You’re not holding back.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Like, to me, that’s… what that means and you’re able to help others do the same. Yeah, I mean, I always say, like, if you want someone who is going to give you the kick in the that you know that you need and you can’t give yourself, like, sign me up.

Like, that is my secret sauce, right? Like, I call myself a bold, tough, loving coach because I am not here to be your best friend, but I swear we will love each other until the end of time, right?

And it was interesting, also one of the same conversations I was having this morning, like this word kind of came in for me and I was like, this is exactly who I am.

And I see this in both of you guys as well, just knowing what I know about each of you is, you know, is this word fierce.

And some people may come at that and be like, oh, that’s like a jagged edge, right? Like, that feels like really sharp.

And I’m hoping to soften the edge of that word for everybody, but, you know, to me being fierce is really somebody who takes a stand.

It’s really about somebody who takes a stand no matter what. It’s someone who is, you know, fiercely passionate, fiercely loving.

Like, I am, like, I want things more for my clients than they probably do for themselves, right? And at the end of the day, you’ve got to want it as bad as I want it for you, right?

And that’s where this fierceness energy I feel like is something that’s been really important to me and how it is that I choose to show up because at the end of the day, like, you know, Lynn, when you read my bio, like, I don’t know about you guys, but like, I’m not here to stay in the status quo.

I’m here to ruffle some feathers. I am here to disrupt. I am here to build my own tables. But guess what?

You are welcome to join my table. It is a very inclusive place. I’m just tired of joining other people’s tables.

I am tired of joining other people’s expectations. expectations of me or what they think, you know, I don’t fit in boxes, right?

And so I feel like there gets to be a more conversation around this. why are we so afraid to like really stand in our power?

And I know you both are not because clearly, you know, we’re simpatico people, but you know, it’s like, when are you going to be ready to shed the, you know, the, you know, I always say it’s like take off the invisibility cloak.

Like Harry Potter fans out there like take off that cloak and start revealing the beauty that is you. Don’t be ashamed of who it is that you are because your people are waiting for you.

They’re literally waiting for you to open your mouth to launch a program to make a career shift. They’re waiting for you.

And if you believe in yourself, the way that, you know, I’m sure you know, deep down exists within you.

So will other people. So anyways, I’m up.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Now we love it. You know, when you were talking about fierce, I know there’s a lot of quotes around this, but Amanda and I have been called many things in our lifetime by ourselves and by others.

So, but with that being said, that fierceness, it kind of like hustle on a man and I have a couple podcasts on hustle and different things like that.

Listen, at the end of the day, if you think fierce is a bad word and then you’re not our client, like at the end of the day, you’re just on our client.

Neither here nor there, but if you think I’m, it’s that whole thing, like, if you think I’m too much, like, okay, then I am for you.

So keep it stepping. Good luck. And that’s okay because we’re not the right fit. So, but don’t throw stones at me just because you can’t, you can’t hold the capacity of who I am.

Like, we’re just not in alignment and that’s okay. But the second you start throwing stones, we’re going to have a different conversation.

Wendy Paige Sterling

you’ll be deleted from my email list.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

Yes.

Wendy Paige Sterling

I mean, for real that happened this morning. I’m just like, wow, I am not you’re punching bag today. So we’re just gonna part ways today.

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Well, we know we’re coming up to the end. There’s anything else the last little nugget that you want to leave the audience with about anything.

Wendy Paige Sterling

I mean, I’m gonna repeat myself if you don’t because I think it’s a really important point. And that is have the courage to build your own table.

You know, I’m gonna invite you to think about how joining others has been serving you. And maybe it has up until a certain point.

I get it. I’ve joined other people’s tables. And it is what is enabled me to realize that I don’t fit in at other people’s tables.

so I have had the courage to create my own, not just ones, not just twice. Understand that just because you start your own table doesn’t mean that you’re keeping other people out It actually means that you’re attracting your people to you So I invite each and every one of you listening today to trust your intuition to trust yourself to take just one step even if it’s a step of like having awareness that oh I think this is fear not my intuition great That is a step and I’m super super proud of you Maybe it’s you’re thinking about what you want for lunch today and in your gut You’re like god.

really want some notchos But I should really have a salad well the nachos are your intuition maybe and the salad is your fear, right?

So I would just invite you everything in moderation guys I would just invite you to start with something really small and Learn how to trust yourself so that you can start building that intuitive table and getting

It’s like attracting your people to you. So that’s my last bit.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

Yeah, I hope you realize that from now on whenever my intuition says nachos are pizza. I’m just going to go with it.

Salad be damned and I’m going to say that you told me to. I do love the good nacho.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

It’s hard to find a good nacho.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Well, when you are, I don’t know how you find nachos. Hey, there’s great nachos in the play.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

Oh, it’s great. Great nachos.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Anyway, we digress.

The Pursuit of Badasserie

Sorry. Now I watch a lot. Yeah, I guess we all know we’re having for dinner tonight folks. I hope all of you in home are also going to have nachos tonight.

Wendy, where can people reach out to you, connect with you?

Wendy Paige Sterling

Where’s the best place to find you? Yeah, I would love for you guys to connect with me across social media, Wendy Page Sterling.

You can also check out my podcast, which is called The Power in the Pause. And then if you guys want to check out my website where my

podcast is also available to listen to my website is wendy page sterling dot com and page has an i-n-p-a-i-g-e.

So thank you guys so much. This has been, you guys are awesome. I wish we all lived closer. could go have drinks now.

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be super fun.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

And nachos. Trying to get you to try nachos.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Margarita is a nachos.

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I do know a really good Margarita place or Linda’s in Thailand. So I feel like we’re already halfway there.

It’s right away from your house. So just saying Wendy, will we see Wendy?

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

They talked this February.

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Well of course all that information will be in this show notes for you. So just keep scrolling and you will find all of Wendy’s information.

Wendy, it has been a pleasure. always is to speak with you.

Wendy Paige Sterling

Thank you you guys too.

Lynn Howard (Lynn Howard)

God love you guys. All right. Make sure that you are following Wendy, hitting subscribe to her podcast, taking a look and absolutely let her know what you pulled out of

of this podcast today.

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Until next time, get after it